Teaching the Birds and the Bees i.e. Sex, is often not considered a topic for inquisitive children, but teaching them the RIGHT things about sex and at the RIGHT AGE is imperative for their positive and overall development.
Mum where do babies come from? Dad what is sex? What are they doing? After your child watches the animals in the zoo mating or an inappropriate scene on the TV. These are all questions that need answered but parents often feel awkward talking to their innocent and inquisitive children about sex and all the details that go with it. It is important that you educate your children about this delicate topic before they receive inaccurate and sometimes harmful information from their peers and older children.
What is this? 21 questions?
Questions about sex from tiny minds, craving knowledge and information, will make any parent blush and look blankly into their growing child’s face. If you feel uncomfortable talking about this topic, it is important that you don’t send your child away without the answers he/she is seeking. You can always contact their school and enquire how to deal with this situation or request possible sex education. There are also age appropriate sex educational books and movies available.
Your child of course doesn’t want to know all about the passionate details, so keep this information to yourself and perhaps start the conversation by saying that “Adults in love have sex as a way of showing and strengthening their love and bond. They also have sex as a way of starting their own family and having babies”.
Lets Talk about Sex
Children generally start asking questions when they are about 8 years old. At this tender age it is a good idea to keep this information very basic. Sex can be a difficult concept for young children to grasp, so be patient and perhaps use different wording and ways of phrasing this information, so that they can best understand it.
Although you don’t want your young daughter to be thinking of sex at a young age, you need to be prepared to teach your child about this natural event. You will need to be willing to teach your children about sex for many more years to come. As she gets older and approaches her teen years, you will need to be more honest and offer more of this important information. It is crucial that your child feels comfortable talking to you about sex; he/she should feel as though the door of communication is always open.
Again and Again and Again
You can’t explain and talk about sex just one time and expect all your child’s questions to be answered. Repetition is a good idea because it makes it more comfortable for everyone involved. If sex is brought up often enough, eventually your children will feel more comfortable talking and asking you about sex. If your child is reaching the preteen years, they may also feel embarrassed about their queries. Let them know that it is ok to talk and ask about sex and that this is a natural phenomenon that isn’t embarrassing, wrong or off limits. You should address these questions in a welcoming and conversationally, friendly manner.
All the Necessary Info
Teaching your kids about sex is essential; as it will ensure healthy and responsible sexual behaviour once they reach this stage in their lives. Sex education should also include the dangers of having sex. This means that once your children reach their teenage years you should start introducing information about STDs, unwanted pregnancies and healthy sexual practices.
It has been found that children want to learn from their parents about sex rather than from their friends and peers. Parents in fact have the greatest influence on their children when it comes to sex and sexual information. Your children trust that you will give them factual and accurate information.
Confidence and Preparation is Key
- When talking to your children about sex, you’ll need to be confident and sure of what you are saying. You may question yourself and feel as though you are forwarding inappropriate information and perhaps promoting teenage and underage sex. This is however not the case, the more information they have, the more equipped they are to make responsible and educated decisions. If they know all about the dangers of sex and that sex should be treated respectfully and only had with someone special, then you will help them to become responsible adults.
- It is an excellent idea to prepare yourself for these questions. This means revising answers to uncomfortable questions your child might want the answers to. This way you will be prepared for any situation and you will be sure that you are giving them accurate information. It is also a good idea to go over age appropriate sex educational books with your children and allow them to have access to this information if they so require and if they wish to read through it on their own.
- When teaching your children about sex it is essential that you talk to them rather than talking at them, get their opinion and understanding about this fact of life. This way you can be sure that they have processed this information correctly. It isn’t an ideal and comfortable situation, but it needs to be covered thoroughly. It is often the case that the first questions are usually one for the memory box.
That’s a Wrap
As uncomfortable as this situation may be, your children are growing and so are their minds and need for information. Teaching your children about sex, will better equip them to make responsible adult decisions. As they get older you will need to talk to your children about safe sex, STDs and unwanted pregnancies.
It is human nature to want to gather and learn about new information. Let your child come to you with their questions. Don’t bombard a young child with too much information, ensure that you give them information that they can handle and comprehend. As a parent it is your responsibility to give your children the necessary information, so as to better and improve their lives.
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